Mend

This is a place for the warriors that no one sees. They are those who have bled in silence. They have prayed in the dark and kept showing up anyway.

My name is Neetu Chetty. Mend is my offering. It was born out of deep love and devastating loss. It represents the quiet, unseen courage it takes to keep breathing when everything inside you has shattered.

I met my husband at university. From the moment we said yes to each other, our story unfolded in joy and faith. We experienced a love that was profoundly deep. Together, we built a life full of purpose, laughter, and four beautiful children. He was my safe place. My steady. My song.

And then, grief came. His death tore through everything we knew, but not through the love. That remains. It always will.. My hope is that the legacy of my beautiful husband Ken, affectionately known as ‘Healing Hands’, continues to reach beyond the grave, flowing through our story, our experience, and our healing. May his life still touch others, may his kindness still echo, and may the love he lived be the light that leads someone else home.

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Why Mend?

The name Mend carries layers of love. It was inspired by my daughter, Dakshina, whose final graphic design project on campus was titled Mend, a visual and emotional campaign focusing on mental health for men. At the time, it was a creative expression of her heart for the unseen and the unheard.

After losing my husband, her father, the word Mend gained a depth I couldn’t have imagined. The experience was unimaginable.

It became more than a project.
It became a calling.
A lifeline.
A promise.

Because even in heartbreak, something sacred can be pieced back together.
Because even in silence, love speaks.
And because healing is not just personal, it’s generational.

Mend is now a living echo of that intention. It serves as a space to honour grief. It uplifts men and holds women. It gently speaks to the invisible wounds that so many carry.

This blog is my way of continuing what he began , with every word written in love, in honour, and in hope.

Because healing doesn’t mean going back.
It means going forward, tenderly, imperfectly, and honestly.
It means honouring what was, and still believing in what can be.

I write from a Christian perspective, because it’s the lens through which I see life, but Mend is for everyone.

This is not a space of rules or religion. It’s a place of humanity. Of stories. Of slow, sacred becoming.

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What You will Find Here

• Reflections on grief, love, motherhood, and hope, through a journey that I never imagined my children and I would take.
• Letters to the one I’ve lost, but still carry
• Honest thoughts about faith, healing, and the messy middle
• A quiet reminder that you are not alone, no matter what you believe or where you’ve been

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My Hope for You

That you will find comfort here.
That you will feel seen in your sorrow, and strengthened in your spirit.
That you will remember: healing is holy work, and you are not too broken to begin again.

If all you can do today is keep breathing, then that’s enough.
You’re here. You’re still here.

And maybe, just maybe, you’re being mended too.

With tenderness and truth,
Neetu

Wife to Kenneth Chetty, Mom to Dheno, Dakkie, Danyal and David, moving forward by the grace of God.